Week 27 - 30

Week 27 - 11 May 2008

BE THOUGHTFUL - "When translated from the Girl Scouts and Boy Scouts vernacular, being thoughtful means being aware of how your habits affect another person and treating that person as you would have her treat you. Your idiosyncratic personal habits shouldn't be an onus to either one of you, so sort out early what really bothers the other ("don't ever do that again"), what just mildly annoys the other ("okay, if you must occasionally"), and what is just too idiosyncratic to even try to change. Care and affection can be communicated through such little gestures - replacing the milk if you drink the last drop and keeping the newspaper sections together if you read them first - that it's absurd not to do them."

in brief, 唔該做事有d手尾呀!!

Week 28 - 18 May 2008

COMMON GOALS - "Creat short- and long-term goals together - things you'd like to do as a couple. In the process of doing this, you'll have the opportunity to articulate and set some mutual priorities. Your goals could include simple, tangible things like installing a hummingbird feeder outside the kitchen, physical activities like exploring a new hiking trail each weekend, or more abstract goals like making the effort to listen to each other better. Create simple ones each week with an eye towards tackling bigger ones over a long time period. Post your goals on the fridge and check in periodically to see how you' re doing and whether it's time to set new ones."

Week 29 - 25 May 2008

SACRED TIME - "Carve out of your busy schedules time that is devoted solely to the two of you as a couple. Fill this sacred time with something that nurtures a facet of your relationship. Taking a walk at the break of dawn? Or perhaps exchanging foot massages on a weekly basis? Make it a ritual, or schedule and commit to this time as far in advance as possible. Appropriately harsh punishment should be dispensed for breaking or forgetting this date, maybe something like having to give the other partner an hour-long massage."

第日可可米出咗世後希望可以 follow 呢張 card 的做法, keep 到有二人時間啦!

Week 30 - 1 June 2008

RULES OF THE GAME - "You both have unspoken expectations and unexpressed pictures of what a relationship should look like, based on your own family, the movies you've seen, and the books you've read. Before you start breaking each other's "rules", you may want to try to express, to the best of your conscious knowledge, what your expectations are and what the picture of a happy relationship looks like. Articulate in as much detail as possible what you imagine. It's helpful to verbalize this, both so your partner knows what you are envisioning, and so you can hear how absurd and specific some of your expectations are, particularly in the face of never having filled your partner in on her role before."