Week 43 - Week 51
放咗d cards 在櫃桶到好耐都好懶唔 upload 上來, 診 GeorG 熨衫and睇波, 等我一口氣 upload 晒上來啦, 唔覺唔覺已經到 week 51, 究竟寶物係咪尋龜底呢, 現在只有 GeorG 先知, 因為係佢每個 Sunday 比一張咭仔我, 下個 Sunday 就係最後一個 week before 我哋迎接結婚3週年的大日子 (BTW, 我同 GeorG 都 apply 了 annual leave on 5 Nov, 好想過一個2人世界 ^o^)
Week 43 - 31 August 2008
WE'VE GOT THE POWER - "How is power distributed in your relationship? Does one of you have more of it than the other? Among couples in which there is a more extroverted, seemingly controlling partner and a quieter partner, it is often the quieter partner who holds the most power. Since silence doesn't offer anything to engage or respond to, this partner can powerfully, albeit passively, stonewall man feelings and activities. Do you agree on the definition of power and understand how you both characterize your individual relationships to it? More important than how power is divided in your relationship is the awareness you both have of it and how able you are to share it in different situations."
Week 44 - 7 Sept 2008
LUNCH BUDDIES - "Make a lunch date with your buddy every once in a while. It's fun to see each other in the iddle of a work day. And because there tend to be certain limits that come with a lunch during the work week, enjoy the formality and flirtation that comes with these boundaries. Take this opportunity to talk about things you don't usually talk about. Or pretend to be meeting for the first time on a blind date."
Week 45 - 14 Sept 2008
FIVE FOR FIVE - "As a spontaneous or regular exercise, take five minutes to remind each other (and sometimes just yourself) of five things that you love and appreciate about your partner. This is a good way to reconnect after having a flight or any experience that makes you feel a little insecure in the relationship."
I love this suggestion!! A way to remind how we love each other ^o^
Week 46 - 21 Sept 2008
WRITE NOW - "Send your honey a handwritten letter. Even if you live together, pop it in the mail. In this day of e-mail, there is something so wonderful about getting a handwritten piece of mail from one's lover. Don't work yourself into a writer's block by imagining this leeter being auctioned off at Sotheby's some day, just put a feeling or two into words and send it off. The fact that you took the time to locate a stamp is at least partial evidence of undying love. Who knows? You might even become pen pals."
Week 47 - 28 Sept 2008
PORTRAITS - "Paint, draw, photography, or collage a personal portrait of each other. Even if you aren't artistically inclined, pick up a Polaroid camera, a pencil, or even some clay and see what your love muse can inspire. If you are more repulsed than excited by the though of being elbow deep in art supplies, make an appointment with photographer or painter to have a portrait created of the two of you."
Week 48 - 5 Oct 2008
STAGING A FIGHT - "Fighting, if done fairly, honestly, and occasionally, can be a constructive (albeit impassioned) means of clearing the air. Check what your motives for fighting are before jumping in the ring. Do you want to resolve an issue? Are you striking back because you feel defensive, misunderstood, or wrongfully accused? Or are you looking to eviscerate your partner? If so, this is a good moment to just take time apart. In a volatile moment, try to step back and detoxify the situation with a pause, by not reciprocating your partner's fury no matter how provocative he's being and by recognizing when you're both just too gosh darned tired to make any sense."
Week 49 - 12 Oct 2008
REACH OUT! - "In spite of the all-too-human reflex to withdraw in a defensive posture when hurt or misunderstood, try to stay in contact with your partner enough to share your feelings before withdrawing to nurse your wounds. This at least gives your honey enough information to know how to reach back out to you. If you can stay in contact long enough to communicate why you feel a need to withdraw, you stand a much better chance of getting the comfort you need from your partner."
Week 50 - 19 Oct 2008
TIME-OUT - "Knowing when to step back and take a walk or a night apart is as important as having good communication skills. If a situation has gotten so volatile that there is no way to have a constructive conversation, then it may be time for some time out. Both of you have the right to decide a time-out is necessary and to have your decision respected as a temporary cease and desist order, hopefully before any damage is done. Before you part, agree on a return time-in and through what medium you'll communicate."
Week 51 - 26 Oct 2008
MAKE OUT - "The longer you've been with your lover, the less you probably remember what necking and make out sessions were. Or maybe it was never your style to begin with. But it's never too late to start making out. Whether it's planned ("honey, meet me on the couch at 4pm") or spontanesous (smack!), enjoy it. If you're a bit rusty at first, remember that practice makes perfect."
Week 43 - 31 August 2008
WE'VE GOT THE POWER - "How is power distributed in your relationship? Does one of you have more of it than the other? Among couples in which there is a more extroverted, seemingly controlling partner and a quieter partner, it is often the quieter partner who holds the most power. Since silence doesn't offer anything to engage or respond to, this partner can powerfully, albeit passively, stonewall man feelings and activities. Do you agree on the definition of power and understand how you both characterize your individual relationships to it? More important than how power is divided in your relationship is the awareness you both have of it and how able you are to share it in different situations."Week 44 - 7 Sept 2008
LUNCH BUDDIES - "Make a lunch date with your buddy every once in a while. It's fun to see each other in the iddle of a work day. And because there tend to be certain limits that come with a lunch during the work week, enjoy the formality and flirtation that comes with these boundaries. Take this opportunity to talk about things you don't usually talk about. Or pretend to be meeting for the first time on a blind date."Week 45 - 14 Sept 2008
FIVE FOR FIVE - "As a spontaneous or regular exercise, take five minutes to remind each other (and sometimes just yourself) of five things that you love and appreciate about your partner. This is a good way to reconnect after having a flight or any experience that makes you feel a little insecure in the relationship."I love this suggestion!! A way to remind how we love each other ^o^
Week 46 - 21 Sept 2008
WRITE NOW - "Send your honey a handwritten letter. Even if you live together, pop it in the mail. In this day of e-mail, there is something so wonderful about getting a handwritten piece of mail from one's lover. Don't work yourself into a writer's block by imagining this leeter being auctioned off at Sotheby's some day, just put a feeling or two into words and send it off. The fact that you took the time to locate a stamp is at least partial evidence of undying love. Who knows? You might even become pen pals."Week 47 - 28 Sept 2008
PORTRAITS - "Paint, draw, photography, or collage a personal portrait of each other. Even if you aren't artistically inclined, pick up a Polaroid camera, a pencil, or even some clay and see what your love muse can inspire. If you are more repulsed than excited by the though of being elbow deep in art supplies, make an appointment with photographer or painter to have a portrait created of the two of you."Week 48 - 5 Oct 2008
STAGING A FIGHT - "Fighting, if done fairly, honestly, and occasionally, can be a constructive (albeit impassioned) means of clearing the air. Check what your motives for fighting are before jumping in the ring. Do you want to resolve an issue? Are you striking back because you feel defensive, misunderstood, or wrongfully accused? Or are you looking to eviscerate your partner? If so, this is a good moment to just take time apart. In a volatile moment, try to step back and detoxify the situation with a pause, by not reciprocating your partner's fury no matter how provocative he's being and by recognizing when you're both just too gosh darned tired to make any sense."Week 49 - 12 Oct 2008
REACH OUT! - "In spite of the all-too-human reflex to withdraw in a defensive posture when hurt or misunderstood, try to stay in contact with your partner enough to share your feelings before withdrawing to nurse your wounds. This at least gives your honey enough information to know how to reach back out to you. If you can stay in contact long enough to communicate why you feel a need to withdraw, you stand a much better chance of getting the comfort you need from your partner."Week 50 - 19 Oct 2008
TIME-OUT - "Knowing when to step back and take a walk or a night apart is as important as having good communication skills. If a situation has gotten so volatile that there is no way to have a constructive conversation, then it may be time for some time out. Both of you have the right to decide a time-out is necessary and to have your decision respected as a temporary cease and desist order, hopefully before any damage is done. Before you part, agree on a return time-in and through what medium you'll communicate."Week 51 - 26 Oct 2008
MAKE OUT - "The longer you've been with your lover, the less you probably remember what necking and make out sessions were. Or maybe it was never your style to begin with. But it's never too late to start making out. Whether it's planned ("honey, meet me on the couch at 4pm") or spontanesous (smack!), enjoy it. If you're a bit rusty at first, remember that practice makes perfect."
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